There are two sad parts to this story. The first was that the family panicked and had a feeding tube put in, despite their mother’s wishes. The second, says WRAL in the article “Advance directives lift burden of tough decisions at end of life,” was that after the woman died several years later, her family found the advance health care directive. An advance health care directive gives a person the ability to express what medical care they want and don’t want.
Without knowing about a loved one’s wishes for their end-of-life care, it’s hard to honor them. That’s why documentation, like advance health care directive, are so important. So is telling your family where your important legal documents are.
What is an advance health care directive?
Cases like the women mentioned earlier highlight the importance of this kind of document. While her advance health care directive was misplaced, many people don’t have them at all. These are important to address non-financial end-of-life issues, both for the person and for their families. It’s important that when you do create one, you give a copy to the agent you have named.
Most people would prefer not to have life-prolonging measures implemented. Without this document, the decision to remove a breathing machine or a heart machine can be even more difficult for a spouse or a child. The burdens are not just emotional.
If there is no decision maker named and family members disagree about what their loved one would have wanted, a battle may break out in the family that results in a court fight.
A few notes on advance health care directives:
- They can be created at any time, but most people tend to consider them at midlife or close to retirement.
- The document can be amended at any time and should be reassessed through the course of life.
- One decision maker should be appointed to avoid arguments.
Health care agents, doctors and loved ones should all be provided with copies, and the originals should be accessible. Some people put them on the refrigerator, so first responders can find them quickly.
Call us to discuss adding an advance health care directive among your estate planning documents. This is a burden that you can make lighter for those you love.
Reference: WRAL (Sep. 18, 2019) “Advance directives lift burden of tough decisions at end of life”